When we type the word -”Empathy” on a search engine, we end up getting results like- ‘ ability to understand or feel what another person is experiencing’, ‘to place oneself in another’s position’. Primarily it’s all about considering others. But why do we need to do that? Why should we start focusing on someone else’s emotions and problems. Well this is because, being empathetic is not advantageous for anyone else but for us. It’s for our very own benefit. Let us tell you how it impacts the major areas of life.

1. Personal

There comes time in our lives when we feel puzzled and it seems impossible to get out of the problem. This happens because our mind centralizes on the complications rather than paying attention on fixing it. In that case, we must go out and extend hands to the ones who are sailing in the same boat. Helping others makes us concentrate on solutions instead of getting disheartened by the situations. Consequently our dilemma too gets unravelled and this happens when we put ourselves in someone’s shoes.

2. Professional

Having empathy makes us apprehend the pain of others. The moment we start realizing the ordeal of people, we begin to ponder how to facilitate them. Consequently, we attain the quality of building people, gathering people, organizing people, managing people and this is the quality of becoming a Leader!
‘If you know how to walk along with everyone, you’ll be successful in life!’

“If you want to walk fast, walk alone. But if you want to walk far, walk together” – Ratan Tata

3.Entrepreneurial

Being empathetic is one of the essential skills of becoming an entrepreneur! In the movie Padman (2018), Akshay Kumar playing the role of Laxmikant, decided to manufacture the low cost sanitary pads for comfort and happiness of his wife. In the process of making, he tried to improve it at every stage with the help of ‘Feedback’ i.e. by understanding his customer. In other words putting himself in their place. And for that he even tried using it himself! He ended up manufacturing a machine producing extremely affordable pads and changed the lives of several rural women. All this started and continued with an emotion called “empathy”.

4. Social

Besides our personal and professional concerns, the act of empathising plays a pivotal role in beautifying our relationships with people as well. Arguments, disputes, breakups, divorces – all are repercussions of dearth of empathy. All of us are distinctive and so are our perspectives towards life; yet we consider our opinion to be the best!
We forget – different individuals act differently on similar occasions since their upbringing, surroundings, socio-economic conditions and experiences are not same.
When we attempt to perceive the emotional undercurrents of another person, we acknowledge that nobody is right or wrong, we’re just dissimilar. From that moment we stop reacting and start responding to the situations and consequently will harmonise the ups and downs in our relationships as well.

5. Emotional

When we begin practicing empathy and commence feeling & understanding emotions of others, it bestows an immense pleasure to see others happy and successful and that pleasure is absolute! The day you start getting happiness from someone else’s smile, you’ll be above your own emotions. At that point of saturation, nobody can defeat you because the meaning of your victory, bliss and contentment lies in people rather than you! If you want to be invincible and unstoppable then empathy is a terrific weapon you must possess.

6. Spiritual

If you presume you are not empathetic at this point of time then don’t worry, you can attain it with practice. Universe has never been unjust while rendering to us the different virtues. It’s solely up to us, to which emotion we give power.
Empathy is an ultimate emotion, emotion is energy and we all humans are forms of energy. Being empathetic is one of the chief spiritual traits and we ponder on developing such traits! We have forgotten – “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience”, said by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin.
So wake up! Being empathetic is the very nature of humans.

There comes a time in our lives when we feel shattered and astray from our path. We feel stuck and can’t go ahead in personal and professional life. In that moment, we want someone to come and motivate us, push us. However, we don’t need motivation; we need Inspiration. Inspiration to get up and start again, something to pull us from inside rather than push us. And for that we don’t need to walk miles. Just look around you and you’ll find abundance of inspiration.
Let’s learn 5 life lessons from nature for a successful and stress-free life.

1. Birds

“I won’t do this, no I can’t.
I think I’m not made for this.
I would fail even if I try.”

Do we often think this way before trying anything for the first time?
Well we may but birds don’t! They have so much faith on their fragile feathers that they never think, before taking the very first flight from their nest. They teach us such a great lesson on ‘Believing Ourselves’. If a bird can, then what’s holding us back? Well it’s our very own self which allows us to doubt our abilities, creates fear and hesitation. If we listen to our instinct, our inner voice and have faith on ourselves, nobody can stop us.

2. Fern and Bamboo

One of the major reasons of getting demotivated in the path of success is ‘Comparisons’. We often compare-
Why can’t I have what my colleague possesses?
Why can’t I achieve what my sibling does?
Well in that case, we may have a look over Fern & Bamboo. You must have heard this story, when god explains a shattered man that even after nurturing and taking care of fern & bamboo equally, the fern quickly grew while bamboo took around 5 years to show results and after that within 6 months it rose to over 100 feet. It had spent five years growing roots.

All of us have different timings and our timings are perfect. There is no benchmark to get settled or achieving success in life. If you are not getting results on your path, don’t give up on you. This is your phase of growing roots.

3. River

Have you ever seen stagnant water, how’s it? – Contaminated, not fit for drinking! While on the other hand the flowing stream of water is pure and free from dirt. To keep flowing is the very nature of the river. No matter how many twists and turns are on its way, a river never chooses to stagnate and eventually ends up flowing into the oceans. It moves on and stops for none.
Once Martin Luther King, Jr. said –
If you can’t fly then run,
If you can’t run then walk,
If you can’t walk then crawl,
But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.
Now you decide what you want to be – water without flow which is muddy and murky or fresh flowing water which is going to reach its destination at the end.

4. Ants

Well how often we have tried this in our childhood, putting finger in the path of ants. They either take a route around or over the obstacle, but they always find a way. However, the question is how often we do that while anticipating a hindrance in front of us. We may opt to sit down and dissolve into self-pity or just cry over situation.
This little creature teaches us such a big lesson – ‘Always find a way’. Whenever you feel surrounded by the circumstances, don’t just sit down looking at them like a threat. Instead blend your ways, find other solutions to get out of it as ants do.
Remember! If Plan A doesn’t work, there are still 25 alphabets left.

5. Butterfly

Here’s the onset of spring and it’s delight to watch these beautiful butterflies this season. However, have we ever wondered, so much of hardships they have to go through to reach this level? They well explain that it’s not possible to directly jump from eggs to butterfly without the grueling stages in between. Same is the case of our path to success, we can’t just reach the pinnacle of ladder without climbing it. It demands to go through the struggle and hardship.
“Diamonds cannot be polished without friction.
Gold cannot be purified without fire.”

The stages of caterpillar and pupa are our phases of trials that are going to make us better, teach us the lesson and make us ready for the days to fly with enchanting wings as that of butterfly.

In this fast pace professional life, we are neglecting one of the precious reasons of our happiness i.e. – A Healthy Relationship!
Quarrels, misunderstanding, stress, disinterest… all this is very common in any relation. Here are some tips from your Life Coach to maintain the loving & long lasting bond with your partner.

1. Replace “I” with “We”

In this world of individuality, we need to get out of the self-centered shell to understand the point of view of our better half. Don’t just have your own perspective, start looking at life through your partner’s eyes. Give each other the same importance that you give to yourself!
A vehicle can’t be driven smoothly unless all its tiers are balanced at same level.

2. Do away with Communication Barrier

“Don’t talk about your partner, talk to your partner”. Majority of the conflicts don’t come to an end just because we don’t communicate. Your companion can’t read your mind, you need to express.
Talk what you feel, what you expect. And when your spouse expresses, listen to understand not just to respond. Communication is the foundation of good understanding.

 

 

3. Trust each other & respect the Privacy

4. Resolve your conflicts before going to bed

It’s good to have some healthy conflicts but carrying forward an unresolved quarrel to the next day can worsen the situation. Don’t just talk while resolving the matter, try to read between the lines. Notice the body language, voice tone, facial expressions, whether the other person seems stressed, sad or frustated.
Put yourself in your partner’s shoes, Such emotional attunement  will level up your ability to understand the other person, and respond in ways that lead to happy and long-lasting relationships.

 

5. Balance Between your Personal & Professional Life

Taking the baggage of office to your home can bring cracks in your love life! Prioritise your goals, manage your time well to strike a balance between the both.
Don’t be just present physically – remove your tie, get into casuals and feel the home.
Don’t let the sourness of your workplace enter the sweetness of your abode. Leave it at the door step!

6. Say the magical words

7. Pay attention on your appearance

8. Go for a Date